tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4332235454173435701.post1972729288571395967..comments2024-01-10T21:26:29.386-08:00Comments on 5 Hearts, One Family: GossipAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14621231092375521848noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4332235454173435701.post-8641934009494729022014-08-24T15:05:01.108-07:002014-08-24T15:05:01.108-07:00It's hard to think that they weren't actua...It's hard to think that they weren't actually my friends to begin with. I think that Satan just got in the middle and it's a battle he is winning - for now. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14621231092375521848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4332235454173435701.post-879995437997874022014-08-24T15:04:03.507-07:002014-08-24T15:04:03.507-07:00Well, I've been the gossiper as well. :-/ We a...Well, I've been the gossiper as well. :-/ We are all imperfect. Trying to make a wrong right can go a long way in helping someone heal. Thanks for encouragement! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14621231092375521848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4332235454173435701.post-31311811999729294832014-08-24T14:58:25.201-07:002014-08-24T14:58:25.201-07:00I have been in the judgmental seat myself. :-/ It...I have been in the judgmental seat myself. :-/ It's hard not to. Child abuse is a sticky subject. I understand the concern - even the concern others (strangers) may have for my family (or think they have). I think what really hurt the most is that so much of this came from the church body. It's totally backwards. I know things are screwed up in my family. We are in family counseling for crying out loud! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14621231092375521848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4332235454173435701.post-50978460042039326272014-08-24T14:54:45.604-07:002014-08-24T14:54:45.604-07:00Like so many other things in this world, gossip is...Like so many other things in this world, gossip isn't new. It's ancient. But that doesn't make the struggle any easier! I have actually tried to reconcile with my friends but received no response and I probably won't ever speak to or see them again. It's sad.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14621231092375521848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4332235454173435701.post-34648003526543586432014-08-07T03:53:27.103-07:002014-08-07T03:53:27.103-07:00Sadly, too many people find pleasure in talking ab...Sadly, too many people find pleasure in talking about others because it keeps them from having to confront the flaws in their own lives. Even sadder, Christians can often be the worst offenders. I am so sorry that people who you counted as friends have betrayed you by gossiping about you. I'm so glad you have some rock-solid people still in your life, though, who you can depend on during rough times.TaMara Sloanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10712928262166899676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4332235454173435701.post-2935450408666763782014-08-06T16:48:58.047-07:002014-08-06T16:48:58.047-07:00I completely reject the notion that as I Christian...I completely reject the notion that as I Christian it is my "duty" to go around and call everyone out on their bad behaviour. Or rather - what I deem to be their bad behaviour. Which is completely subjective. Unfair. Judgemental. Rude. Yet -- I know very many Christians who do this.... and it always, always backfires. Mostly because it is rarely down in Love. Or with an ounce of understanding and compassion. I would always prefer someone to speak with me directly; and I would absolutely give them the same due and respect. The only instance is if I have witnessed actual child abuse --- then as a Sunday School Teacher I do have to inform the Pastor/authorities immediately and they will deal directly with the individual (but that's not gossip -- that is me as an eye witness.)<br />Such people drove me away from my home church back in my hometown. But when I came back to God - or rather, just the physical church, I vowed I would not let that happen again.<br />And it's sad when you get more support from your non believer friends. LA Botcharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09045857399816360885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4332235454173435701.post-43401238504386520612014-08-06T07:50:31.259-07:002014-08-06T07:50:31.259-07:00This post is the truest of true. Unfortunately, I ...This post is the truest of true. Unfortunately, I think gossip will always be something that will hang around - people are insecure, jealous and very judgemental and sadly that will probably never change. I have lost several friends over stupid gossip and one friend we had been like sisters for over 10 years. Just like that a friendship is ruined and things will never be the same. It's very sad but I am beginning to learn that as long as you realize the trust between true family and true friends, that makes life a little better to get through rather than having the other friends you feel you need to walk on egg shells with. Courtney Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12323168268534230899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4332235454173435701.post-63250769167243914852014-08-05T17:02:39.709-07:002014-08-05T17:02:39.709-07:00I hear exactly what you are saying. In fact last n...I hear exactly what you are saying. In fact last night I told my granddaughter (age 12) who worries so much about what people think about her that she only needs to care what her parents think, what her grandparents think and what her REAL friends think. And real friends don't talk about you behind your back. You didn't lose any friends through all this......they weren't your friends in the first placePaulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17406717262345866373noreply@blogger.com