|Birthday Date Night|
I know how spoiled I sound. I know how spoiled I am!
There is nothing wrong with an in home date night. We have them all the time. And that's where I was frustrated. I wanted a server to bring me a glass of wine. I wanted to sit and hold hands with my husband while someone else cooked our meal. I wanted to walk away after eating and let someone else do the dishes. (Not that I did any dishes on V-Day, I didn't even want Mr. Sexy to have to do them.) V-Day ended up being an off night because I wasn't able to communicate with my husband about my feelings.
Date night takes discipline and it's important for us to make sure it happens. Our date nights aren't as regular as they used to be but we are working on it.
Speaking of discipline...
We are very strict with both the kids for different reasons. Michael likes to see what he can get away
with and is learning to be very manipulative - particularly with me. Marie needs strict guidelines in large part because of her disability. Disciplining her, for the most part, is pretty cut and dry. She doesn't currently throw huge fits or tantrums or even talk back. Michael is a much different story. He's highly emotional and very sensitive. He also seems to be becoming increasingly dependent - particularly on me. Below are some of our techniques that we learned from Parenting with Love and Logic.
Deep breaths and counting: When he is too wound up I tell him to be still, take deep breaths and count to 5. Oh my gosh. This has become a wonderful tool. Sometimes he finishes but his eyes are still red and puffy and his voice is still on the verge of a tantrum. So I say, "again." He doesn't always willingly comply which brings me to my next tool:
Choices: You can count to 5 and take deep breaths or you can quietly go to your room and take a nap. Giving Michael the ability to make his own choices has been awesome. Which veggie would you like to eat? Carrots or broccoli? Which consequence should you have? A time out or a nap? The trick is to make sure I give him choices that I can live with. If a time-out isn't a good enough consequence then that shouldn't be an option for him to choose.
Push-Ups: This was a consequence he chose due to his consistently rude behavior. Every time he was rude, no matter when or where, he gives 5 push-ups. We don't use this one as much these days.
There are so many unique ways to discipline. I'm always open for new ideas!
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